I’m gonna be honest…. I’m a Pinterest junkie. Home decor inspo, wedding planning, organization techniques — all of it can keep me deep in my phone for a good few hours. One of my favorite things to look at on Pinterest is inspirational quotes.
It’s a little cheesy. It’s a little nerdy.
I love it.
But aside from the pretty designs and profound words, I’ve also found that quotes are the key to recognizing yourself. It is too easy to ignore things that you don’t want to deal with or claim that the things you don’t like about yourself would take too much work to fix. But it is also a challenge to recognize those things in the first place, let alone get ourselves to change them. I believe in constantly improving oneself. I believe that the world, your family, your children, and you deserve the best version of yourself and it is no one’s responsibility but yours to get there. No one can do it for you. No one can make you work on yourself. It has to come from you.
So how do quotes make a difference?
Because they provide a new perspective. No one can come up with every view of an issue they’re dealing with, nor can any of us identify every problem we have because we’re too close. The wise words of others are needed for us to recognize our weaknesses and areas of growth. They reveal parts of us that we have rejected or glossed over by using different words or putting it in a new way that hits us and makes us go “oh dear that’s me” or “that’s it, that’s what I want to be”.
They also tell us where to start. I have found quotes to be an incredible source of inspiration and motivation. I have learned much about myself by reading quotes from people like Mother Teresa, Dave Ramsey, even Marilyn Monroe. One of the most beautiful things about humanity is how much we can learn from one another. Wise words are spoken every day; we need only listen.
“Love, to be real, must empty us of self.” – Mother Teresa
This could be my motto if only saying it didn’t sound like I was bragging. It is such a beautiful statement and I really took it to heart. Most of my personal growth came in my high school years. One of the characteristics I was determined to learn was selflessness. There is a twisted view of love in our society. People believe that it comes and goes like a wave. The rate of divorce is appalling and the number of unhappy marriages is depressing. The reason these failed relationships happen is inherent selfishness.
How can we love completely and give ourselves to another while also demanding that every one of our own needs is met? We crave true love. We crave that pure joy that we read about in the classic novels and the ease and comfort that comes with falling in love. But we must give to be worthy to receive.
“I don’t mind living in a man’s world as long as I can be a woman in it.” – Marilyn Monroe
This one may be controversial. I do not believe there is anything wrong with living in “a man’s world”, primarily because I think that phrase is ridiculous. It is not a man’s world. We all live here. We all reap the benefits. And we all have things to contribute. We simply have different responsibilities. And there is nothing wrong with that.
I don’t want to be a man. I am proud to be a woman. And it doesn’t matter what supposed “privileges” or “extra opportunities” they have, whether they exist or not. Who cares? That’s for them. I am not oppressed. I’m able to work — I own a business. I can make all my own choices, wear what I want, speak how I want, and spend my time how I like. And on top of that, I can build a human inside me, keep it alive for nine months, and feed my child immediately after birth. That’s a legit superpower. Um, I’ll take that over peeing standing up, thank you.
Why would I want to be a man? I can’t fill a man’s shoes. I can’t fulfill the fatherly needs of my children – only my husband can. We have to understand the truth of the relationship between man and woman. The man is the head and the woman is the neck. But both are necessary. The head needs somewhere to rest and the neck needs something to support. So be the support. Embrace the position you were made for. Be proud of your gifts. Be proud of the men in your life.
“We cannot become what we want by remaining what we are.” – Max Depree
As Laurie @theglamfarmhouse (one of my favorite Instagram accounts) said, at some point, you have to stop collecting ingredients and just make the dang cake. Talking about change does not cause change. You want to be different, you do it. I believe that we can change anything we want to about ourselves. You are not stuck in who you are right at this moment. Every choice is a second chance. Take it.
Get out of your own way.
I have been in my own way for 14 years. No longer.
“When the Lord closes a door, somewhere He opens a window.” – Maria, The Sound of Music
There are three answers to our prayers: yes, no, and wait. God never ignores our prayers. Saying no or telling us to wait only means that there is something better for us in our future. We cannot fathom the good that God brings us. We have to realize that our pride halts us from understanding His gifts. When one opportunity closes, there will be a second close behind it.
If you really wanted to, you would.
This one hit me really hard the first time I read it. I was dealing with a lot of back and forth of “do I want it, do I not” and I realized that my actions did not match my verbal conviction to the change. If you are going through a change and struggling to push past that internal wall, take a step back. Have some alone time and analyze your life. Do your actions reflect your words? Are you truly pursuing what you want or staying where it’s familiar, no matter how uncomfortable? And then ask yourself: do I really want this? Is this something I am willing to put in the work for? Yes? Then prove it.
There are more than just these that have hit me right in the feels over the years. I have a board devoted entirely to quotes on Pinterest. I was up to over 2000 pins on that board and I just had to delete it and start fresh. There’s a point where it just gets ridiculous, am I right? Share in the comments the ones that you have heard that hit you in the feels. I’m always looking for more inspiration for my vision board!